My husband organised an early suprise party for my 30th birthday which was lovely. He invited lots of people, including friends I haven’t seen for a while, which was particularly exciting, although I just found the day exciting in general especially whenever anyone arrived!
I used be an emotive person, in the sense that if I got excited or angry, I put all my energy into it. But since being diagnosed with Adrenal Insufficiency, I’ve had to learn to keep everything on a more even keel. Emotions, even happy ones, trigger a response in cortisol, which I don’t make, and therefore I come crashing down fast.
Which makes the concept of a surprise party a tricky one for people with AI! For many reasons:
- Everyone jumping out at me and shouting ‘suprise’ has the potential to make me very ill very quickly. Even if I appreciated the surprise (I used to love surprises) I wouldn’t cope with it!
- Excitement about seeing people (and I was hugely excited) without taking extra cortisol on board could make me ill.
- It’s hard to pace your day if you don’t know you’re having to do a lot later on.
- Just socialising and interacting with people is more than I’d do on an average day, so updosing was definitely necessary.
- My husband had to buy food and tidy the house. To start with, he was going to get a friend to take me out while he did this but then he and my friend realised that I’d use all my energy and wouldn’t have any later so changed his mind.
So I did have a surprise party, but my husband and friends had to be a bit more sneaky about it:
- I went out with a friend the day before for his birthday and he told me to updose for some of the stuff we did, and then take a bump dose in the morning the next day too because of being ‘out the day before’. (A ploy!) You can’t updose every day though, but this was a special occasion which makes it justified.
- My husband persuaded me a morning nap would be a good idea before everyone came over
- Then he told me about the fact that we were having some people over when he produced the food he’d bought while I was asleep- there was a lot of it. He didn’t tell me who the people were though, so that was still a surprise. This was good because it meant I could double my hydrocortisone for the day so I could manage. So the surprise came with a warning!
- Helpfully, everyone arrived and left at staggered times which helped with pacing.
I had a lovely afternoon. I did leave some people still chatting in my living room to go to bed and then slept pretty much all of the daytime the day after to recover but it was worth it 🙂 Thank you to everyone who had a hand in organising it or being a part of the day.